I’m happy to say that my article got over 500 views in just a few days, which makes me hella happy to think that other people are as interested in learning about love as I am.
I’ve gotten quite a few questions about attachment theory and what it all means. I’m thinking of writing another article to explain it, for now though you can check out this piece which elaborates on the most critical findings of attachment theory’s founder, John Bowlby.
Also, I hope to become a prominent voice on modern love and relationships. As such I just made a twitter handle to stay connected with the other big names in the biz. Follow me at: https://twitter.com/zachbeachlove @zachbeachlove
I want everybody I meet in my life to be better off at the end of our interaction.
I want to smile at every person on the street because maybe that’s the only smile they’ll see their entire day, or week.
I want my yoga students to leave their troubles at the door and to dissolve their tensions into a sweaty bliss that simultaneously plants seeds of gratitude, kindness and warmth deep inside.
I want people to feel better.
I want people to feel better about themselves but more importantly to actually feel themselves. Feel from the inside and feel good about it. Feel how beautiful it is to just be alive and then know it forever and ever.
I want to have loved and lost a thousand times before never loving at all.
I want my words to touch hearts. I want my heart to say more than words.
I want these words to fall like snowflakes onto your hair and melt into thoughts as pure as the light you came from.
Compassion, empathy, kindness, liking, affection, cooperation, and altruism are all in our nature, woven into the fabric of human DNA, the most social — and most loving — species on the planet. Love is a natural upwelling current inside us all. It doesn’t need to be pushed or pumped, it needs to be released.
…volunteer work is associated with greater happiness and less depression, and research has shown that performing five random acts of kindness one day a week (for six weeks) can increase your happiness. Moreover, at the end of the work day, if you more strongly feel that your work made a positive difference in other people’s lives, you feel more positively at bedtime. Even research on spending has uncovered similar effects: Those who spend money on others (versus themselves) experience greater happiness.
My friends, let’s grow up. Let’s stop pretending we don’t know the deal here. Or if we truly haven’t noticed, let’s wake up and notice.
Look: Everything that can be lost, will be lost. It’s simple — how could we have missed it for so long?
Let’s grieve our losses fully, like ripe human beings, But please, let’s not be so shocked by them. Let’s not act so betrayed, As though life had broken her secret promise to us. Impermanence is life’s only promise to us, And she keeps it with ruthless impeccability. To a child she seems cruel, but she is only wild, And her compassion exquisitely precise: Brilliantly penetrating, luminous with truth, She strips away the unreal to show us the real.
This is the true ride — let’s give ourselves to it! Let’s stop making deals for a safe passage: There isn’t one anyway, and the cost is too high.
We are not children anymore. The true human adult gives everything for what cannot be lost. Let’s dance the wild dance of no hope!…
The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them. ― Thomas Merton, No Man Is an Island
Many lifetimes we dance right at the door of freedom. We spin pirouettes on the doormat and never quite know who we are. Just one click, one turn of that knob and you know - that’s all. It’s so easy. It is not a matter of it being difficult. It is a matter of people knowing where to go. As soon as you know where to go and you have the courage to go there, it is easy. Go to the unknown, experience the unknown, be the unknown. All true knowledge awakens within the unknown. - Adyashanti